How do you give love unconditionally?

How do you give love unconditionally? What would that really mean? What if it began with the realization that you are already loved unconditionally? That no matter how much failure, rejection, disappointment, or insecurity you feel mired in there’s still something that always loves and accepts you absolutely? That even any pain, confusion, or lies you’ve spread still does nothing to distance you in any way from infinite love? Or could it be in recognizing that everything that is done is done out of love? That everything is about giving, even if it is ultimately about serving one’s ego and causes suffering? Is that kind of needless, selfless giving what true love really is? If you view the whole process of reality as a flow of each part of it giving to another and follow it all the way back to the origin of existence, why give anything at all? Why let anything exist in the first place? Is the answer a purpose, or is it just because it’s possible? Why continue giving on an endless, infinite scale?

How do you love beyond hesitations, insecurities, doubts, fears? How do you love something so completely that it embraces and outlives any harm it causes? How do you love without conditions? How do you ensure that your love endures and transcends whatever suffering it encounters? Can you continue to love something that will cause you more pain than you knew was possible? Is the answer to love openly and freely, so that the unlimited love expands beyond anything you’ve ever given, but is also independent of any need for reciprocation? Is that realistic? Could you experience love exclusively through the giving of it? Could you give without needing or expecting anything in return? Or is it also possible that simply by being alive you are already experiencing love? That things that already happen involuntarily, like your birth, your heartbeat, the sun giving you light and warmth, the trees giving you oxygen, your digestive system giving you nutrients, are all part of an interconnected process that has been giving selflessly from its inception?

Is it possible that the nature of the universe is to give? Is the foundation of reality about giving? Giving life, expression, energy, creativity, etc.? Why give any of it at all if it’s only temporary and already ending and being forgotten?

What is the process of cultivating absolute love for something? What is the best way to practice cultivating absolute love? Does it begin by perceiving something as completely separate from yourself?  By dropping all assumptions and judgments and any sense of its relationship to you as detrimental or beneficial? And then by opening up to and experiencing that thing as directly and selflessly as possible? Is it a process of becoming as selfless as possible? Of experiencing everything for itself rather that what it does for/to you? Is it about authentically desiring and working toward the best for someone/something else? What is “the best”? What is the purest act of love that you could offer another? What is the greatest thing you could possibly give to someone? Is it unconditional love? Is it the ability to express themselves with complete authenticity? Is self-sacrifice the purest act of love? Is true selflessness not only loving someone for themselves beyond what they mean for you, but also being so open that you take nothing personally and let everything go? Could you love others so completely as to accept all their insecurities, selfishness, hurtfulness, and everything else that is a part of them? Could you love them wholly and absolutely?

What are the most effective ways to practice love? Is it to accept the ones closest to you even for the ways they upset, frustrate, offend, and disappoint you? Is it to remain open, vulnerable, accepting, and supportive regardless? Why does it always seem to come back to being unguarded in some way, almost as though it’s necessary to get hurt? Not to intentionally seek out pain but to commit to denying absolutely nothing that’s already there? Why is it so essential to feel everything fully without resisting, clinging, or reacting to it? Why is it so important to be vulnerable? Is that an integral part of authenticity? Is true vulnerability synonymous with fearlessness? Maybe meaning not that you act in the absence of fear but that you act despite the fears and are willing to coexist with them?

What if one of the best ways is to begin with strangers? Could you reprogram yourself to undo all the assumptions, judgments, and indifference for strangers and instead generate feelings of benevolence and appreciation? Could you work on recalibrating your whole perception of reality in that way? So that everything neutral or assumed is reconsidered and loved, not for what it means to you but for itself?